KATHMANDU, Sept 14: We conduct a lot of our interactions with friends and families through social networking sites and emails. And seeing the constant communication with friends on social networking sites, our better halves are bound to get interested in what else we share with our friends. If they asked us for our password, would we be okay with letting them have it? Not only are we giving them full access to our emails and our accounts, but we’ll suddenly find ourselves having to tiptoe when we chat or message. Also, what if we’re reluctant to pass on our password, but they still ask for it?
Pujan Rijal is upfront about it.
“If I were in such a situation, I wouldn’t have revealed it to him, no matter what. Passwords have nothing to do with a relationship. If someone asks his partner to reveal a password, that would mean there’s not enough trust in that relationship. It would also be like an attempt to spy on your partner, and that’s very abhorrent to me. You don’t need to be an open book to your partner. I adhere to the point that a little privacy is one of the necessities in a healthy relationship. Without a second thought, I would say a big NO!”
Bikalpa Kattel says, “Recently, my close friend also suffered from the same problem but he gave her his password. Now we’re in trouble as our regular conversation on Facebook is being disturbed. We’re unable to speak freely like before. If there’s trust between couples, then pressuring each other to share passwords would be a rare thing.”
Like Bikalpa says, it becomes difficult to feel free to talk to friends.
However, Sanjay Gelal supports the notion. He explains, “In my opinion, it’s okay. A relationship is the outcome of trust, faith, understanding and love. So if you really trust your relationship and feel that it’s worth, then there’s nothing to stop you from sharing your password. I think it’s a shame that people promise to love and support each other throughout their life, but then are afraid to share passwords. Is it because they don’ believe in their partners? Asking to know your partner’s password doesn’t mean you doubt and want to spy on her. It would also place doubt on your commitment and trust if you hide it. I don’t have any problem sharing my password with her because I have faith and trust in her.”
Ultimately, the decision is on you. If you feel comfortable to have your password known to your partner, then let her have it. But if you can’t accept the idea, he should respect your decision.