KATHMANDU, Feb 13: For love birds, spoken words may be enough when it comes to expressing love. But, when you go that extra mile and do something special, there’s no doubt that the one you love will be all smiles and happy. There are myriad ways of expressing love, which we’ve heard of, and perhaps many ways that we’ve done so. From taking the timeless route of writing romantic letters or, in this digital age, writing romantic emails to buying gifts and goodies, gestures of expressing love speaks volumes about how deep one’s love is.
And these gestures don’t always have to be materialistic. Atharba Mali, 20, a student at Shanker Dev Campus says that love is all about understanding each other. Hence, he feels that even without pronouncing those words, love can be felt. “I would be very caring and will help her in any way I can,” he shares his way of showing his love.
Prizma Ghimire, 19, a student of Bachelors in Social Work at St Xavier’s College, has a serious crush on a person but has not been in a relationship. “I have this habit of writing diaries. When it comes to expressing love, I may not be able to go on bent knees, but I will show him all that I have written about him in my diary,” says Prizma, who believes that love starts with friendship. She feels that although she hasn’t directly told her crush about her feelings, he does have some hints about how she feels. She has also written poems for him. “But not the lovey dovey kind,” she says, adding, “I’ve written simple ones about how we met and we came across each other.”
Currently single but already experienced in love, Supral Raj Joshi, 21, student and a Radio Presenter at Kantipur FM shares that he tries to stay away from cheesy ways. “I don’t like either ‘Archies or Hallmark’ way of expressing love,” he says. For Supral, text messages are the new love letters and deleting text messages is the new old burning of love letters. Recalling the most romantic thing he did, he shares, “In 2011, sometime in August, when it was my then girlfriend’s birthday, I caught a bus to her hostel in Dhulikhel at 5:30 in the morning and stood outside her hostel, while it was drizzling, to wish her happy birthday.” Whenever, he felt like it, Supral also sang songs for his then girlfriend, on the phone. He has also written a Facebook note, ‘The Story of How We Met’ and shared his love story with others. This was his way of showing his love for his girlfriend then.
Love is larger than gender, age or other labels. Maybe the way we show love has evolved with time, over the years, but this feeling and bond love remains unchanged.